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I had a co-worker, who is a lesbian, ask me if I had ever thought about being with a girl. I'm straight and would never actually be with a girl but I told her that I had though about it, sure, who hasn't? She was shocked by my answer. I then asked a few guy friends if they had ever thought about being with a guy and they both said, "NO! GROSS!" When I told them I had thought about it they both were shocked also. I then asked my sisters the same question and they both said of course they had. So I've just been asking people at random and I've found that girls are more willing to admit having thought about being with another girl. Why is that do you think? (People at work think I'm a lesbian now. Maybe I shouldn't be so honest and forthcoming....) _________________ Yeah... |
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I've thought about it (people are probably lying if they say otherwise), but my biggest hangup is that I'm not sexually attracted to men, Men are just more insecure about their sexuality because our cultures teach us to be tough and brawny, and that being gay is a bad thing. _________________ EisleyForever wrote: you're A-list in my heart! MAKECOLDPLAYHISTORY |
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DRMS_7888 wrote: Men are just more insecure about their sexuality because our cultures teach us to be tough and brawny, and that being gay is a bad thing. This I disagree with, the rest I do not. There are more secure, out-and-proud men than there are women, but if you look at people who openly label themselves as bisexual there is an astronomical gap between the number of males and females. Men are generally less threatened by the possibility of a girl liking another woman- hell, plenty of guys encourage it- but it's almost as if some (most?) men feel that thinking about another man in any way is too emasculating, that it will make women no longer see them as the tough, "ideal" man that girls "want." It's actually a huge social stigma problem, that girls can like both sexes because they're "sensitive" (or slutty) but men either have to be nancing homosexuals or boob-loving straight guys. No middle ground. _________________ |
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I think there is a different between thinking about it and actually wanting to do it. Anyone who says they haven't THOUGHT about it is totally lying. Now WANTING to do it is another story. _________________ my name's carrie and i love a good sandwich so if you have a sandwich, come roll with me! i'm gonna marry the mars volta. |
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I've thought about it. In fact, I kind of have a list. But I'm happily married to a man and I can't foresee any circumstances under which I would ever act on those thoughts. I'll probably never meet Ellen Page, anyway. Mooncutter wrote: Men are generally less threatened by the possibility of a girl liking another woman- hell, plenty of guys encourage it- but it's almost as if some (most?) men feel that thinking about another man in any way is too emasculating, that it will make women no longer see them as the tough, "ideal" man that girls "want." It's actually a huge social stigma problem, that girls can like both sexes because they're "sensitive" (or slutty) but men either have to be nancing homosexuals or boob-loving straight guys. No middle ground. Amen to all of that. I've never met a bisexual man, but I know several bisexual women, straight women, gay women, straight men, and gay men. What a strange gap to have in the range of orientation. _________________ INTELLECT AND ROMANCE OVER BRUTE FORCE AND CYNICISM Smokemonster |
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Saellys wrote: Amen to all of that. I've never met a bisexual man, but I know several bisexual women, straight women, gay women, straight men, and gay men. What a strange gap to have in the range of orientation. as a gay man, trust me there are lots. _________________ chinese food makes me sick |
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Mooncutter wrote: DRMS_7888 wrote: Men are just more insecure about their sexuality because our cultures teach us to be tough and brawny, and that being gay is a bad thing. This I disagree with, the rest I do not. There are more secure, out-and-proud men than there are women, but if you look at people who openly label themselves as bisexual there is an astronomical gap between the number of males and females. Men are generally less threatened by the possibility of a girl liking another woman- hell, plenty of guys encourage it- but it's almost as if some (most?) men feel that thinking about another man in any way is too emasculating, that it will make women no longer see them as the tough, "ideal" man that girls "want." It's actually a huge social stigma problem, that girls can like both sexes because they're "sensitive" (or slutty) but men either have to be nancing homosexuals or boob-loving straight guys. No middle ground. I disagree with what Tyler said in the first half of it. I think our media is really encouraging men to either be gay, embrace gayness, or be more metro. Even portrayal of straight men that aren't metro seems to me to be rather feminine (ie - not rough and tough and manly). This commercial is sort of my point. ---edit--- I think maybe I should also add that in my opinion, while the media is demasculating the straight man, they are strengthening (or masculating) the straight man's girlfriend. I guess that's what I get from seeing commercials like that. _________________ My name is actually Sarah. Facebook. Twitter. |
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sukieinthe_g wrote: This commercial is sort of my point. Please explain how the commercial demonstrates your point. I thought men always loved sugary desserts. _________________ j'ai pas envie d'être un robot, métro boulot dodo -Kelli |
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Saellys wrote: I've thought about it. In fact, I kind of have a list. But I'm happily married to a man and I can't foresee any circumstances under which I would ever act on those thoughts. I'll probably never meet Ellen Page, anyway.
Mooncutter wrote: Men are generally less threatened by the possibility of a girl liking another woman- hell, plenty of guys encourage it- but it's almost as if some (most?) men feel that thinking about another man in any way is too emasculating, that it will make women no longer see them as the tough, "ideal" man that girls "want." It's actually a huge social stigma problem, that girls can like both sexes because they're "sensitive" (or slutty) but men either have to be nancing homosexuals or boob-loving straight guys. No middle ground. Amen to all of that. I've never met a bisexual man, but I know several bisexual women, straight women, gay women, straight men, and gay men. What a strange gap to have in the range of orientation. I am a bi-sexual male, there you now kinda "know" one. _________________ The Wasteland wrote: I will show you fear in a handful of dust. |
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guitargirl wrote: sukieinthe_g wrote: This commercial is sort of my point. Please explain how the commercial demonstrates your point. I thought men always loved sugary desserts. It's not what the commercial is selling, it's how the woman kind of gets on to the guy like he's her pet dog (who's just pooped on the carpet) or something and his defeated look after what she says to him. _________________ My name is actually Sarah. Facebook. Twitter. |
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sukieinthe_g wrote: guitargirl wrote: sukieinthe_g wrote: This commercial is sort of my point. Please explain how the commercial demonstrates your point. I thought men always loved sugary desserts. It's not what the commercial is selling, it's how the woman kind of gets on to the guy like he's her pet dog (who's just pooped on the carpet) or something and his defeated look after what she says to him. He's whipped, not effeminate _________________ |
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sukieinthe_g wrote: guitargirl wrote: sukieinthe_g wrote: This commercial is sort of my point. Please explain how the commercial demonstrates your point. I thought men always loved sugary desserts. It's not what the commercial is selling, it's how the woman kind of gets on to the guy like he's her pet dog (who's just pooped on the carpet) or something and his defeated look after what she says to him. Uh oh. That makes no sense. That's saying being feminine/gay/not masculine equals being like a defeated pet dog (who's just pooped on the carpet). |
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